Some experts even liken the experience to that of dating a cheating partner because of the similarities with how people feel in both circumstances.
Here are some suggestions for coping when you're dating a workaholic: Ask your partner to imagine they are nearing the end of of their days.
He pays our rent and all our bills, and I'm able to pursue my dreams because of his financial support.
Its doubtful that that list will include such things as, "I made ,000 more than the year before," or, "I owned the biggest house of all of my friends." For most people, the memorable moments are those spent with other people, connecting, but the same folks forget that it takes an investment of time to create.
I feel like I'm always in competition with my partner's job.
He works on the oil rigs and is gone three weeks out of four.
Enabling means changing plans to accommodate your partner's work habits, making excuses for them when they are late, postponing activities until they're available, or spending money on things that aren't necessary. Don't sit up waiting for your partner to show up, or nag them into coming; it'll just create resentments and anger between the two of you.
Instead, enjoy yourself whether or not your partner attends, and let them know - kindly and with love - what they missed when you do reconnect.
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